So lately I’ve been offering advice/getting swept up/confused by the idea of time and what length of time allows us to justify our feelings.
Let me explain, so I’ve been having this debate about quantity and quality essentially. I argue that it doesn’t matter how long you’ve known someone, you just know if your feelings are genuine and others have argued that that is bullshit and you can’t possible know how you feel about someone after a few weeks. Maybe it’s about having a sixth sense? Like you have to have confidence in yourself to be able to say ‘fuck yeah, I’m into you’.
The same can be said for platonic relationships too. How soon did you look at your now bbfl and have that ‘did we just become best friends’ moment? I argue it can happy quite quickly, but I’m pretty ruthless with my emotions. If I like you/wanna fuck you/wanna marry you, then you’ll know, and if I have no time for you what so ever, you’ll also know.
I think it all comes down to having faith in your own thoughts and feelings. But also having the ability to stand back and say ‘this isn’t right’.
It takes me ages to find someone to fall for or want to hang out with for a dangerously long amount of time but when I do, it happens hard and fast, and I genuinely can’t get my head around the idea that some human beings can bottle it up for months before saying ‘hey, you…you’re fucking amazing’.
I guess what I’m trying to say is, have faith that what you’re feeling is pretty spot on and you should never have to justify your thoughts and emotions, or dilute them, because it feels weird to be, well feeling, so strongly after a few weeks.
Go tell dem home slice, goat mouthed mammy fucker, dope holders dey da bomb xoxo